The Trauma of Everyday Life Paperback – July 29, 2014
Author: Visit ‘s Mark Epstein Page ID: 0143125745
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Advance Praise for The Trauma of Everyday Life
“Mark Epstein’s book is a rare and remarkable achievement. It fuses deep scholarship with deep tenderness—in the spirit of the greatest Buddhist teachers—to investigate the nature and psychic repercussions of trauma. The fact that Epstein can effortlessly transit between the ancient truths of Buddhism and the most contemporary understanding of trauma is a testament to his agility as a thinker. This is a wise and important book.”
—Siddhartha Muhkerjee, author of The Emperor of All Maladies
“This daring psychobiography of the Buddha divines in tales of his life the sources of his early emotional pain and finds in the Buddha’s methods a balm for the human psyche. In a breathtaking display of the therapeutic art, Epstein does ingenious psychodynamic detective work, deducing what ailed the Buddha, and why his remedies work so well. The Trauma of Everyday Life reads like a gripping mystery one told by your warm and reassuring, but utterly candid, analyst. What’s true for the Buddha, Epstein explains, applies to us all.”
—Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence
“Written with authentic originality, from the author’s own inward struggles and achievements, it is the most loving, gentle, brave, insightful, and exquisite presentation of the all too fully human process of enlightenment I have seen. Reading it engages us to look deep within to the heart as we expand our mind to appreciate the Buddha’s example in the only real way—with the joy of natural relational knowing. Buddha would have loved it—I love it! I recommend it—a transforming pleasure!”
—Robert A. F. Thurman, Jey Tsong Khapa Professor of Buddhist Studies, Columbia University; author of Essential Tibetan Buddhism
“Mark Epstein is one of the very few writers who has been able to make the connections between psychoanalysis and Buddhism seem not merely interesting, but somehow riveting and useful. Written with Epstein’s characteristic lucidity and passion, this inspired and illuminating book clarifies a lot of our presuppositions about trauma and, indeed, about everyday life. It should be of considerable interest to a great many people.”
—Adam Phillips, author of Missing Out and Winnicott
“In this intriguing and deeply moving meditation on the human condition, Mark Epstein offers a psychoanalytic reading of the Buddha’s life that illuminates the same tragedies and joys that are just as much part of our life today.”
—Stephen Batchelor, author of Confession of a Buddhist Atheist
“As always, Mark Epstein meditates on experience—his own and that of others—with exemplary intelligence, sensitivity, and tact. It is hard to imagine a book this year with more lucid and bracing wisdom.”
—Pankaj Mishra, author of An End to Suffering: The Buddha in the World
About the Author
MARK EPSTEIN, MD, is a psychiatrist in private practice in New York City and the author of a number of books about the interface of Buddhism and psychotherapy, including Thoughts Without a Thinker and Psychotherapy Without the Self. He received his undergraduate and medical degrees from Harvard University.
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Paperback: 240 pagesPublisher: Penguin Books (July 29, 2014)Language: EnglishISBN-10: 0143125745ISBN-13: 978-0143125747 Product Dimensions: 5.3 x 0.6 x 8 inches Shipping Weight: 7 ounces (View shipping rates and policies) Best Sellers Rank: #30,765 in Books (See Top 100 in Books) #54 in Books > Medical Books > Psychology > Mental Illness #63 in Books > Medical Books > Psychology > Psychotherapy, TA & NLP #75 in Books > Medical Books > Psychology > Neuropsychology
Over 40 years ago, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross wrote the seminal, ground-breaking book about loss, On Death and Dying. In it, she described the various stages of grief (denial, bargaining, eventual acceptance, etc.) that many of us have experienced with losses in our life.
Dr. Mark Epstein, a psychiatrist and Buddhist author, has now written a profound and deeply affecting book about how trauma affects our lives today. Trauma is one of the things that, no matter how much our technology advances, is always overshadowing the lives of each person on earth. Our family members die, our friends die, we grieve the loss of pets, freedom, and people who move away. In this book, Epstein describes the many ways we deal with trauma and grief, from repressing it, to denying it, to dealing with it head-on. Throughout his own auto-biographical stories and the stories of his patients, he reveals the profound insights he has learned from the teachings of the Buddha. Dr. Epstein’s writing is crisp, easy-to-read, and deeply meditative.
His words were chosen very carefully in order to convey the joys and sorrows that make up our lives today, and have made up the lives of humans for centuries. As a physician, it’s caused me to rethink how I discuss end-of-life issues with my patients and their families.
I read an OpEd piece in the NYTimes by the author and was intrigued by his deep insights. I purchased the eBook thru and never regretted it. I’ve read many books on Buddhism, philosophy, mysticism, etc. This one stands out above the rest because it masterfully blends psychology and Buddhism so that the insights into both disciplines come forth one surprising chapter after another. I can’t say enough about this volume for its analysis of Buddha’s path to enlightenment. It opened my eyes to the areas of his life that have been clouded over by generation of commentators (enlightened and not). I am referring to the trauma of his early motherless existence, the trauma of that experience, and the psychological strains Gautama underwent (and conquered) during his years of physical deprivation and denial. It deepened my understanding of why Buddhism provides such subtle psychological tools to assimilate and overcome the daily (and extraordinary) trauma of just living. I’ve recommended this book to Buddhist teachers and they have been equally impressed with this book.
Impressive, insightful, well-reasoned book, which is filled with poignant (as well as some trite) stories! Neverless, the book is too focused on our stories and our obsessions with them. In typical psychotherapist fashion, the book unfolds as though insight into our history and stories is the answer to our problems even though some key insights in the book indicate otherwise. The book devotes so much to our cognition of our histories and our reconsolidation of memories in a less dissociative manner that it basically ignores how one establishes the mode for holding and remembering our experiences in a way which makes such restructuring possible. Thus, while the book cleverly establishes parallels between pyschotherapy based particularly on modern knowledge of child development and the Buddha’s teachings, the book nearly totally ignores hugely important aspects of the Buddha’s teachings about what must be cultivated in ourselves to make such things possible. Instead, the book briefly states that the Buddha found a method to cultivate balance and equilibrium that is receptive to pent-up feelings and repressed memories which need be aired and resolved for our wellbeing. The method is left unexplained and glossed-over, which might explain why the author joyfully gives an account of a well-adjusted client having a minor but healthful insight who continues to be a patient for well more than a decade! The book falls back on the classic western approach of attempting to "grasp" and rationally solve the problem, here one of suffering. Wonder why we are out of touch? This is a huge omission, but the book nevertheless is very insightful and well worth reading. I felt less burdened afterward.
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